The Path to Becoming a Nicer Person in 2022
Rev. Dr. Kitty Boitnott, NBCT, RScP
Heart-Centered Career Transition and Job Search Coach | Stress Management Coaching
In recent months, we have all watched videos of "Karens" who have dominated the Internet. You know who I mean. The people who decide that it's okay to be rude, racist, or just plain mean to people and get caught on video while engaging in bad behavior.
They fascinate us while they also repel us.
But we watch and give them too much undue attention.
It is rare to see a video that grabs our attention in the same way when we see someone doing something nice for someone. I wonder why that is.
Sometimes, we think of people who are always nice as naive.
We've all heard the adage, "Nice guys finish last." But if I have to choose between being nice instead of being mean and rude to people, I'll take nice any day.
Some of the most attractive people I have ever met were just plain nice. Their good-heartedness glowed through their every word and action. They were such a pleasure to know, and I have long remembered them and their kindness to me and others.
The thing is that being nice isn't just about the benefits to the recipients of kindness.
Research shows that being nice can help you boost your own mental capacity.
It costs nothing to show someone kindness, empathy, and compassion. Think of the people who have had the most impact on you in your life. Is it possible that they were nice to you and showed you some special consideration? They made you feel like you mattered? I best so.
In our day-to-day engagements with people, it's important to show kindness, empathy, and compassion. And there are many ways to go about doing this.
Take a look at the characteristics that cover what it takes to be a "nice" person:
Here are some signs that show that you're a nice person:
· You pay attention to what people say to you and show them that what they have to say is important to you.
· You're never disrespectful, and you're always truthful.
· You own your mistakes, take responsibility for them, and apologize for any harm done.
· You're not hard or harsh on yourself or other people.
· You're always compassionate and empathetic.
· You have a habit of complimenting people--and it is sincere.
· People love being around you because of your kind nature.
· You're always kind to others.
How to Become a Nicer Person
1. Let go of anger.
To become better people, we must learn to manage our anger and ultimately let go of it. If you have anger issues, you may need to get help with them. Unresolved anger can lead to all sorts of problems with your health and your relationships. Learning how to manage your anger and letting it go is the hallmark of a mature adult.
2. Support others.
It's better to give than to receive. Research has proven this. To become a better person, you should learn to help others. A reasonable person isn't self-centered but cares for others too. Note that your peace of mind can be enhanced when you support others. And your emotional well-being can be improved when you practice altruism.
3. Leverage your strength.
Do more of the activities that are right for you. Each of us has a particular and unique strength or aptitude. Learn what yours is and use it to your advantage. Use it to your advantage personally and professionally.
4. Take care of yourself.
To be able to face life's challenges, grow as a person, and reduce your stress levels, you need to learn to take care of yourself. You're likely to create more problems for yourself and become more vulnerable to stress when you do not prioritize self-care. On the other hand, you'll be in optimum shape when you take good care of your mind, soul, and body. When it comes to self-care, downtime, connection with others, nutrition, and sleep are the basic aspects you should focus on.
5. Learn to be "user-friendly."
To become a better person, you need to work on your interpersonal skills and your relationships. If you've not been doing well as a family member, partner, friend, coworker, or colleague, now is the time to do better.
Honestly, it does take a lot of courage to admit that you need to become a better--nicer--person. But committing to personal growth is an investment that will pay off in the long run. You'll not just become a better person; you're also going to enjoy areas of your life that are very significant.
It's worthy to note that taking a step to becoming nicer is not about seeking perfection. Perfection is an illusion. But we can all benefit from being more mindful of our feelings and reactions in the world. Being a nice person benefits you and all those around you.
Until next time.
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